Each morning and moment I am presented with the opportunity to choose who and what I am feeding in my life.
I think everyone I know has heard the tale of the two wolves--the good and the bad and how it matters to whom you are giving emotional sustenance. Am I waking up with anger and frustration? Chances are, if I am, I will probably attract and look for more things about which to find fault and complain throughout the day. I feed THOSE feelings of inadequacy, comparison, emotional neglect and disgruntlement, and within this heartspace of hurt, I can birth and strengthen a wolf of fear and anger.
However, if I awake and consciously choose to look for the beauty, the love, the miracles and joy, then I manifest and feed the wolf within who protects and honors the same things in life. It is a beautiful and powerful story of creation and personal responsibility. No one else is responsible for what I am creating in my life. Even when challenges happen or disappointment comes to my doorstep, I can decide the story I am going to tell and which main character I will emulate--the "hero" or the "villain."
Some mornings, it can be a challenge to get up out of bed and see the sun shining, the food in the cupboards and the gift of those I love resting peacefully nearby. I am human and have an ego. These are the days when I get back to the basics of being still, building body awareness and breathing. They are powerful tools to find your way back to the pack of gratitude.
First, I sit someplace peaceful and quiet. If I can, I go outside near the earth. Being still to me, means no distractions of computer, TV, radio, children, etc...AND it may only be for a few minutes of time.
Next, I internally scan my body to notice HOW I am feeling. Is there pain anywhere, do I feel emotional or restless, and is my mind chattering away and WHOSE voice and words are really speaking? I practice observation and non-judgment during this time and I MEAN PRACTICE. There is no perfect way when I practice. There is only the doing over and over until it becomes more ingrained in my psyche.
Finally, I take deep, slow breaths. I like to inhale through my nose, pause and hold my breath for a moment and then open my mouth and exhale deeply--sighing like the wind blowing through the trees. I do this for a few moments, envisioning my feet growing roots and settling further into the earth and myself. I feel better and am able to lovingly feed the gentle, playful and compassionate she-wolf within.
I invite you to practice these same techniques and see who you wind up wanting to feed inside of you.
Jen Martin is a Mom, Medium and Movement Person. She uses her intuitive abilities and training in yoga, prenatal yoga, meditation, and business to help others appreciate and help themselves. If you have kids, like hearing from loved ones in spirit or enjoy taking heart-centered yoga and meditation classes, check out Jen's blogs.